Have you ever felt that you are “doing the work” and not seeing any perceivable results? Are you feeling frustrated, inadequate, or even worse, apathetic? Even when we have a stable sense of agency and autonomy, and are actually making the decisions and acting upon them , it can seem like those efforts aren’t amounting to what we hoped they would. We want to feel as if we are making an impact in the world with our actions; we want to feel a sense of efficacy . When we lack efficacy, it can lead to that existential feeling that nothing matters (or nihilism) which can hold us back in deep and profound ways. In those moments, it’s often hard to discern exactly how and why our efforts seem to be going nowhere. Even if we have identified a specific reason (whether internal or external) why things aren’t turning out the way we want them to, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the reason. Or perhaps our actions are having an impact, but just not in the way we expected or wanted them to. There are so many reasons why we may feel we lack efficacy. Perhaps we’re judging ourselves by the wrong standards or metrics; or maybe we’re in an environment that is not conducive to success or real action. Regardless, feeling as if our actions are not going anywhere can only exacerbate any deficiencies we feel in our agency or our autonomy. There are plenty of philosophical schools of thought regarding personal efficacy, stoicism being one of the most popular. But the resurgence of classical stoicism often fails to recognize or address the technological or cultural landscape in which we find ourselves. Marcus Aurelius’s meditations may still resonate today, but – like any ancient philosophy – the complexity of our contemporary cultural landscape defies the classic simplicity of the ancient (and even the enlightenment) mind. Philosophical counseling can provide us with approaches more appropriate to our unique cultural and socioeconomic upbringing, taking into account our unique experiences and the intersectionalities therein. Where are my efforts going? Am I being distracted by my own expectations and not seeing the actual impact of my actions? A philosophical counselor can help.

Have you ever known what you want or need to do, and you’ve taken all the necessary steps to actually make your decision, but some internal or external factors limit the scope of your ability to follow through? This phenomenon is related to a lack of autonomy. In my last post , I discussed the role of agency in our overall wellbeing. Whereas agency speaks to the capacity to make decisions, autonomy is related to our ability to act on a decision . Sometimes there is nothing more frustrating than having the plan laid out before us, and then lacking the initiative to proceed. Perhaps we’re giving into a limiting story we’re telling ourselves about why we can’t act, or that we’re not worthy of a possible result. Perhaps we’re in an environment that isn’t conducive to us achieving the goals we should be able to reach. Discerning the difference between internal and external blocks is key to understanding how to overcome these challenges; and we often need an outside, neutral perspective to help us do so. This applies to our ethical lives as well. Perhaps we have a desire to live by a certain code of ethics, or somehow enrich or live a more spiritual life; or we’ve let go of a religious perspective and are ready to engage in a more secular set of ethics. Perhaps we just wish to live by a higher standard and just be a better person , but can’t quite seem to integrate the philosophical frameworks into a practical, liveable philosophy. The greatest philosophers often outline some lofty ethical standards, but rarely give us practical ways to actually achieve those higher ethical or spiritual goals. Whether it’s a specific plan or goal, or trying to live a better ethical life, fostering a deeper sense of autonomy can help us identify the greater purpose to our lives, aside from simply “getting by” or just “surviving.” Working with a philosophical counselor from a safe and objective space, without judgement, and help us assess the range and scope of our personal autonomy, identifying the factors that may be impeding our ability to follow through on decisions that we know will benefit us. We all deserve to live our lives with a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Philosophical counseling can help provide a framework for success.

If you’ve ever heard yourself saying that you “don’t want to adult” today, or that “adulting is hard,” chances are you’re feeling a lack of agency . That feeling goes hand-in-hand with the paralysis of decision fatigue that arises when we need to make multiple decisions throughout our day, and feel that we neither feel empowered nor have the energy to do so. It’s also one of the most common issues that philosophical counseling can effectively address. Most people think that decision fatigue only comes into play when we’ve had to make big, monumental decisions. While that can be true, most of the time our decision fatigue is instigated by the vast array of small, inconsequential decisions we’re forced to make every day without even realizing it. Did you know that simply reading through a web page with hyperlinks, or scrolling through your social media feeds, involves dozens – if not hundreds – of individual choices? Clicking or not clicking on a link is a choice, as is each swipe of our finger over our screens.Think of all the links you’re exposed to in just a few minutes of scrolling and add to that the usual choices we have to make on any given day: No wonder we feel paralyzedI It can also lead us to feeling as if we’re somehow being pulled along by factors outside of our locus of control. If we’re always feeling reactive rather than proactive, it’s a sign that our energy is going to the wrong places, and that we may need to reevaluate who – or what – exactly is steering our ship. It’s almost as if our lives become one giant doom scroll, or treadmill, from which we can’t escape. Unfortunately, centuries of Western philosophy espousing the importance of “free will” – and how a perceived lack of will is akin to some kind of weakness or moral shortcoming – can exacerbate this feeling. While Descartes, Kant, or even Nietzsche or Sartre have much to say about the valor and empowerment of free will, none of them had to deal with endless news cycles, social media, or the constant availability of information. Just as the human brain is not structured to handle the 24 hours news cycle; enlightenment and existential structures of philosophy as they were written are not structured to handle a technologically-curated contemporary life. Philosophical counseling provides a way to bridge that gap and hel[p us identify exactly how and why we feel a lack of agency, and provides a neutral space in which a client can identify the places where their energy is going, and create potential strategies for rest, recuperation, and making empowered, informed decisions.